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Thursday, December 4, 2008

To find out or not to find out...

So, When I was younger I used to say that when I got pregnant I would want to be surprised and not find out the baby's gender. Then as I got older I started to think that maybe I would want to find out, and recently have been like "heck yeah, I'm going to find out..."
But lately I have been re-thinking the whole finding-out thing. several friends and family have said that I should wait and be surprised.
But the problem? I am so impatient! But then I think how neat it would be to wait and be surprised. Josh says it doesn't really matter to him... and I know we have a couple months until we can find out anyways, but I am so torn....
Do I just deal with the impatience, suck it up and be surprised? Or do we find out?
I did find a cute gender neutral bedding set that I really like... Here is a link.

So what do you guys think? Your own personal opinions, not necessarily what you think I should do. I just want to hear your thoughts!

15 comments:

Blue-Eyed Bride said...

i'm going to find out. i'm not patient enough to have it be a surprise. i might make it to 30 weeks, but not 40 wees! :) haha i want to pick out the name, the decor, monogram everything, you get it. i am going to try to keep the name a surprise for everyone else though.

Nanee Plainy said...

NOOOOO!!! DON'T DO IT!!!! This is the most amazing surprise you could ever receive, don't ruin it just for planning purposes. Besides, you shouldn't peak at gifts, and that's what a baby is. ;-)

Holly Marie said...

i would want to know. not for planning purposes, necessarily (although that would be part of my motive) but mostly because i am just so darn nosy, i wouldn't be able to wait that long... it doesn't matter one way or another as long as i have a healthy baby, i am just nosy lol!

Sweetassbabs said...

It makes thing so much easier. I found out I was having a girl and knew her name and how I was going to decorate. We had the room done and every thing she would ever need already bought. That helped when she popped out and all hell broke loose. I do not wish a difficult baby on anyone but when the shit hit the fan I was so prepared. At least with what I had, not with being ready for the demanding job of a very high maintenance baby. I had done grocery shopping for 2 months worth of easy to make food and had a stock pile of things like toothpaste and klenex. I am very glad now that I did all of that cause if I had to take care of my crazy baby plus worry about having to finish painting her/his room or what i was going to eat I think it would have pushed me over the edge. It is a very personal thing though so do what is in your heart.

Living for the Little Moments said...

I personally would want to know mostly because I know I would drive myself and my husband crazy wondering about it if I waited to be surprised. I tend to have horrible reactions to surprises, so if I found out if it was a boy or a girl I could drive him crazy wondering/worrying/overthinking other aspects of the pregnancy :-). Good luck with your decision!

Lizze said...

I found out with all three of my boys. Although, honestly, I don't see how the u/s tech could have kept it from us because all three were SUPER PROUD of themselves. ;) lol You could always do what Rob and I did with Emmett John...find out but keep it a secret until the shower. Then you share the sex but keep the name a secret until the birth. If we ever have any more kids (and that's a HUGE if) I think I'll do it that way again. So much fun! ;) But then again, I'm "evil" that way. lol

Congrats again Katrina! *hugs*

Kitty Cat said...

Hi there. I'm new to your blog, and I'm not pregnant, but I imagine I'll go ahead and find out, because no matter which day you find out, whether by scan or when it's born, it will be a surprise on that day. I think times are changing, and the nice thing about knowing is that you can get all the "girl" or "boy" things instead of gender neutral..and you can start talking to your "little girl" or your "boy" in your tum...either way, I don't think it's that big of a deal. Whatever your instinct says.

Lindsey said...

I wouldn't find out. I heard that it can be wrong, I had two friends find out and the doctor was wrong on the sex of the baby! So I would just let it be a surprise.

Rachel Silver said...

Hey Katrina,

Thanks for stopping by my blog earlier this week..I must know you from the coffee shop. Unless you went to East Union HighSchool? Or maybe New Hope Church?

Anyway, I've had two girls. And I knew each time. If I ever have another baby I wouldn't find. It would be SO hard because I am a very organized person. But as I found out with both my girls nothing goes perfectly. My first was born nine weeks early so even though I had everything, it was all in boxes in the living room. My second was picture perfect but the day of her birth. We changed her name.

I think I would have cherished my time pregnant more if I didn't know...Just my personal opinion if it was me! Good luck!!

poetgirl said...

Hey Katrina--Kirsten here. Steve and I chose not to find out with either of our kids. We felt like it would be the coolest surprise ever and we enjoyed the anticipation. We also enjoyed watching how much it BUGGED people that we didn't know. Ha. It's a sport. :) With one of our kids when we got an ultrasound, Steve asked the tech how many people chose not to find out the gender of their baby--she said "Two!" So I know we're in the minority, but we kind of enjoy that. We didn't tell people what names we were considering either, which also bugged them, but we really didn't want everyone's input on whether they liked our name choices or not. We picked two potential names for a boy and two for a girl, and waited to make the final decision till the baby was born.

Heidi @ GGIP said...

I always have found out and will always want to in the future. However, I do understand that it can be a very special surprise.

And, you actually can't always tell, depending!

Vintage Dutch Girl said...

We obviously found out, which was our preferece. You need to choose to do what is right for you and what you want.

I had people actually act like it was sin to find out the gender of our unborn baby.

I don't see anything wrong with finding out...but being a labor and delivery Nurse I DO know how fun it can make your delivery to be surprised...

Ashley said...

I had a good friend who didn't find out and she really wished she would have. She wanted a girl so badly and had she known she was actually having a girl she would have been able to do so much more girly-type stuff.

I'm not married and not pregnant but I would have to find out. I have to plan and plus I am not good at waiting for a surprise! :)

I hope your pregnancy is awesome and I will be praying for a healthy baby for you!

The Carlisle Connection said...

Find out~ I couldn't wait with any of our 3 kids. I was anxious to know.

**Melissa** said...

I would MOST DEFINITELY find out! not only because I'd be soooo impatient, curious and anxious to know but also for the shopping (not to get pink or blue clothing) to get all the customized accesories, pick names, and picture myself with the baby girl or baby boy... it's so exciting!

When's your first sonogram?